I know being a mother single a good deal of this time 

Now a grandmother too 

There's times my confidence got to a low point along with some highs just some times when we are alone these times seem few and far apart they did with myself in these times I have to remind myself that I count too

Confidence has been a big grind on my part 

There's nothing like it when you see someone with tons of it they ooze with it like it's pouring out their pores and others like me well it's like it's left me behind where has it gone ! 

Definitely left me !

I know in these times I have my confidence tricks 

Like when I put on make up a long time ago for me am in my fifties now just whenever I put make up on I tend too act confident it's like a separate being I learnt when I was younger I never needed, courage like you did from a stiff drink no I got mine from the lipstick the eye liner the war paint as my father called it maybe this was it I felt a bit of a warrior maybe just felt different in it 

Like putting on your Sunday best yeah I am old and traditional do remember those times well.  

Well these are the things I do when I want to think of being confident 

I go back and pull back these memories these feelings to take me back again 

I use tricks like these for other feelings and wonder if they may help you too 

They definitely stop me from over thinking and panicking which I tend to do in all times until I get into my zone that I need to help me through