Category: Self care

1. Confident times when feel low

   Posted on 3:48pm Thursday 12th Dec 2024

   I know being a mother single a good deal of this time 

   Now a grandmother too 

   There's times my confidence got to a low point along with some highs just some times when we are alone these times seem few and far apart they did with myself in these times I have to remind myself that I count too

   Confidence has been a big grind on my part 

   There's nothing like it when you see someone with tons of it they ooze with it like it's pouring out their pores and others like me well it's like it's left me behind where has it gone ! 

   Definitely left me !

   I know in these times I have my confidence tricks 

   Like when I put on make up a long time ago for me am in my fifties now just whenever I put make up on I tend too act confident it's like a separate being I learnt when I was younger I never needed, courage like you did from a stiff drink no I got mine from the lipstick the eye liner the war paint as my father called it maybe this was it I felt a bit of a warrior maybe just felt different in it 

   Like putting on your Sunday best yeah I am old and traditional do remember those times well.  

   Well these are the things I do when I want to think of being confident 

   I go back and pull back these memories these feelings to take me back again 

   I use tricks like these for other feelings and wonder if they may help you too 

   They definitely stop me from over thinking and panicking which I tend to do in all times until I get into my zone that I need to help me through 

2. Self Care

   Posted on 3:31pm Thursday 12th Dec 2024

   One of my other blog posts I talk about not making us ourselves priority in self care in lots of ways we don't 

   We just think we do 

   Many times we don't I find 

   We do stuff for other's more than we do for ourselves that's not a bad or a wrong thing is it we will if we nurture or care for other's we do and will think of them first especially if your into adulthood and have children or a family member we do put others first in various times 

   As I said there's nothing wrong with this 

   Just as it's not a selfish act to put us on our to do list neither is it not to be a priority just we become out of practice

   As a child we just do just a being than as we grow older become wiser we also become accustomed to putting others before us 

   So just take a few hours back for you in these times and areas 

   Give you some space 

   And do stuff things that lights you up 

   Stuff things that warms you up 

   And gives you comfort 

   Just puts us in a different manner and gives us a sense of freedom and content feelings in doing something for us - just us !

   Celebrate these times and treasure them makes you enjoy them more 

   Bit of me time does us no harm it's a bit of good 

3. Care of yourself

   Posted on 10:10am Wednesday 11th Dec 2024

   Remember it's always good to put you first 

   I know we don't and we have issues concerning us going first that comes from nurturing environment plus how we feel and what we care about 

   We are not often first not in family 

   Not in many ways or times 

   Sometimes not even in our own perspectives or thoughts we are not first 

   Just there are times we need to be first and foremost

   In those times it's time to put you first in times of discomfort those times especially and in times of self care 

   You should always be your own concern 

   And receive your own care 

   Just how many times do we really in reality put us first 

   It may seem as individuals and human we do put us first just it shows in our behaviour more than we care to admit it your first 

   Remember some pamper time for yourself at least time for self reflection 

4. Care of the energy state

   Posted on 9:50am Wednesday 11th Dec 2024

   We do need to take care of our energy state

   As much as our that

   As they both work in tandem with each other

   They bring in a stabilising force

   A balance 

   If not in a neutral position 

   Our energy state can become unstable out of sync fairly easy fairly quick as it's in the triggering on purpose to make us move 

   Make us take the required actions needed to place us in a different or back to neutral position 

   The whole reason the body goes into a energy state is too take the required actions we need to get us out of this predicament 

   As in scared we take flight to seek comfort or saftey to escape get away this energy is required in a big energy-efficient way to make us able to be in this position this is what the body systems do 

   The more we know what is happening the more we can see in the knowledge that is taking place and in this knowing we can become more aware more highlighted to this feeling this present and it has an effect effort on us in being able to see it in existence in this vision field of vision in seeing this aspect we can and are able to notice it and pay attention and be at one in it 

   This has and becomes a separate being that we can use in this present

   When this separation exists we see a conscious real the reality 

   So the energy has less effect on us 

   Just as it took a long time to get here in us it takes a bit of practice to push through with it too 

5. First step of self discovery

   Posted on 9:51am Sunday 8th Dec 2024

   Make a commitment

   Journey will require us to focus

   Take action 

   And prioritise your needs 

   Change comes your work and effort we put it!