A lot of time in self reflection and working through emotional states there's times where we become become stuck like in a seesaw sway 

Where we are one way 

But there's a giant pull a giant sway towards the other way 

One emotion will pull us towards another way another side 

Where we may think we are going along at a steady stream where we feel knocked off or swayed away even like a current underneath that pulls us off course in these times it's useful to know about counterproduction work in those times 

How our energy levels our emotion levels have a swing and fro sometimes even a turnaround type of way in when we feel one emotion and it throws us another way even the opposite sometimes these take a definite more effort to turn back towards a even balance 

Which we tend to gravitate towards 

One of the things I have found more than any other time that you if ever feel uncomfortable put you first in these times

if you can in your own comfort

as you and your own comfort counts for the best 

In all things considered comfort of our own self

should be premium bondsmanship,

we own it too ourselves to always in times of discomfort to put us ourselves first in these times anyway you see fit 

as you are always in charge of you more so in the power of comfort it's yours too seek if needs must 

I have been an ambassador of choosing comfort in times of need for a good while now with myself it all started in my early twenties when I ha d some bad times areas in my life where I looked for all ways sometimes it's been at the expense of me in a escape like way to act 

Just in doing so more and more happened around me some devastation too and in those areas and times I found comfort

Mostly in the stuff that happens in front of us 

taking stock of this 

I found my first taste of comfort 

so this is what I use in times when things look bleak or I feel a lot of discomfort I seek out the comfort in things I know and understand

I take this comfort and make it a priority 

just for enough time to build up your energy supplies and resources to the level you require to when your good and ready to tackle it again 

this time with your own freshness that appears in times of comfort ready and waiting to reach your next obstacle what ever this brings 

remember in discomfort, any red flags any gut instinct feelings this is time to seek the comfort bond that you have with you yourself 

Put you first in these times always

Negative affective areas 

is where we have one or more feelings emotions present and where it leads too more emotional states

It takes us down a spiral 

another area of emotions that make us feel

probably more emotions and it starts to become absorbed

we are in it present

or we are in reaction with it 

reactive 

and first and foremost this will and does happen 

It will 

It does work like this in us humans 

we have emotions and in some it has a pull down affect on us 

It impacts us 

or we become carried away in it the reactive self is beyond reflective it's starting beginning to take it inwards 

it's turning inwards you now

this can become a protective stance

Or defence stance 

Or both together if it's hurt or external factors